Zohar, who gives her dating advise on TikTok, says the first key thing to ask is how their previous relationship ended and what it taught them about themselves.
She makes it clear that she isn't asking about the ex, but rather trying to understand what caused the breakup.
Another factor to consider is whether or not they have accepted responsibility for their conduct or whether or not they continue to place the blame on their ex.
The second question has two possible formulations: what do you want to get out of dating? Or, how do you think a significant other might fit into your life?
In some capacity, in some way, it's important to ask somebody what it is that they're actually looking for or what it is that they have the bandwidth for.
Somebody could say they want a relationship—they could genuinely want one—that doesn't mean they want one with you or they want one with you in the way you want one.
The reason I love this question is because it can give you insight if this person even has the bandwidth, the time, or the energy to be in a relationship.
She talks of a time she went on a date with someone who was working on a feature picture and would be gone for months.
Sometimes people really do have the best of intentions when they go out there and date, but then after they meet you and reality sets in, things happen.